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What drives people to commit to someone?
What makes people to cheat?
What makes people who are cheated , to make a new commitment with the cheater?

I have not found the answers to these questions, because so far i have been living in an idealistic world, where i considered that a commitment once made should not be broken.

Repeated betrayls have forced me to now beleive that appropriate strategy to deal with such cases is to ,"Not attach with anyone,stay detached.It is a good safeguard against the pain".

There is a flipside to it too, "Whats life without taking some risk,...If there is no risk there is no excitement".So if you want to have a piece of some action,stay put,dont back out. Slowly you will learn from the cheater, all the moves and you will be safe.

So crux lies in experiencing detachment, and moving back to a "Detached attachment" where yu stop feeling the pain of detachment.

A very confusing topic,i am glad i tried
ani

For all the time i didn speak

As i walk through

Say say

Standing here
in pouring rain
waiting for you

Concern

So how to know when there is love in a particular situation? When it shows concern for the other, seeks to know what the other likes, and tries to seek within yourself whether you have it to give. I think it is a very simple equation, and if this is practiced sincerely, we can always find out whether there is love in the situation or not.-master

Don't know how

Time will heal

"So when do you know it is love"...Aamir khan makes movies..and his movies at times are perfection personified..this movie too was something everyone could relate to.."jaane tu ya jaane na". This post is not about the movie let me clarify that first. It's about how close to reality this movie i feel was.

When i joined nmims, our VC told us on first day during his address that x% of students who finish their MBA from nmims...end up finding a partner in the same batch ..and i was like...what stats..that too on first day ;)..well later i found few of my batchmates even calculating the probability that they cud be one them..

I figured out that according to this historical data, from our batch at least 12 people should be able to hit target (;) m sorry but Abhinav Bindra's olympic gold has made me use "hit the target" phrase quite often)..and the last count that i have, my batch has approx 10 individuals who will help achieve that target ;)

Guess all of them would have gone through same self realisation, that too in a much shorter time frame (for facts:jai and aditi(movie characters) i guess were together in college for 5 years..and my batch had just 2 years...mba's are superfast ;)).

Its a difficult feeling to realise at start. Its dificult to segregate a friendly feeling from affectionate love feeling. Its difficult to realise if something is being done as a friend or should be asssumed to be a step towards a different relation altogether.

There is so much fear of losing friendship that love actually has to struggle its way out most of the times, and most of the times it stays inside forever, waiting for the next....Target ;)
I feel one should let it out, this feeling and clarify it in the most candid manner one can..and that the other person should respect the feeling and decide objectively..if only things were so easy isnt it ;)

well things can definitely be easy..only thing is "understanding" becomes a more operative a word to make things easy..better understanding can lead to better achievements of ..."TARGETS" :P